the beauty in surviving a shit sandwich – my divorce musings

the beauty in surviving a shit sandwich – my divorce musings

As we embark on the beginning of a new session of Goddess Body University, it brings me back to last year when I was going through the process of divorce, I was completely out of touch with my body. I’ve seen countless women also come into a crossroads in their life, ready to shed layers of insecurity, finally ready to take their self-care seriously and de-stress. I know this personally all too well. Stress was an understatement in my own personal journey last year. I had put this undue pressure on myself to “keep it together”. I had been “keeping it together” in my marriage for about 13 years for the sake of my children. Tearing apart a family was a guilt I did not want to bear. Until one day I looked in the mirror and realized that I had robbed myself. I was spending my days avoiding the truth, making excuses and busying myself so I wouldn’t have to deal with reality. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was coaching women to be strong, confident and powerful in their lives when I felt like a phony, fake and crumbling mess. During the thick of it, I found my strength in teaching women to do what I did not have the mental fortitude to do for my own life. What I didn’t realize is that while being a teacher, I was indeed the student. I learned that my timing needed to be just that, mine. No one could tell me what or how I needed to live. I had to come to this realization on my own....
Train Like A Goddess Competitor

Train Like A Goddess Competitor

Train Like A Goddess Competitor- FREE 14 Day Challenge A FREE Challenge geared to give you a real feel for a Goddess competitor lifestyle! What is it? Over the past 3 years I’ve been coaching every day women, just like you, to get on stage for a bikini or figure competition. Heck, I myself have competed on stage 7x successfully and learned so much along the way. Through my own personal experiences with lackluster coaching that left me starved, depleted and on a mental downward spiral, I made it MY mission to coach women the healthful “Goddess” way. This 14 Day FREE Challenge will provide you with a great taste of what training is like, how to start eating like a competitor and how mindset is one of the key components to lasting success. In an effort to get MORE women comfortable on the gym weight room floor, I am inviting you to join me for 14 days of training and also eating and thinking like a Goddess Competitor. You’ll get an average of 10-12 workouts in over the 14 day challenge (mainly weight training but some HIIT cardio as well). This will likely be much different training that you are used to, but that’s ok because I’ll be in the private Facebook group the entire time to help you out! Remember…in order to achieve something you’ve never had, you will have to do things you’ve likely never done before right!? How Do You Sign Up? Click here to add yourself and then you will get FREE from me: 14 Day Workout Calendar from June 6th-June 20th with some flexibility so...
Desire Map Weekly Planner Review

Desire Map Weekly Planner Review

I am a planner addict. I love to-do lists, however I think I like scratching things off my to-do list more than anything. I literally cannot wait for 2018 so I can DIVE into using Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map Planner that is littered with so much love and inspiration to create a passion filled year leading with my core desired feelings. This planner system incorporates your soul and your to-do list; your gratitude and your goals; your deepest desires with your day-to-day. I did a full video review of the daily journal below so you can see what it looks like and how freaking beautiful it is. Or you can read my notes below the video for a recap. Why I am in L-O-V-E with this planner: Hard cover. It’s sturdy and well built. I love the spiral bound spine so that I can open it up flat and not worry about it closing up on me. I dislike soft flimsy covers that won’t hold up while roaming around in my laptop bag 🙂 The elastic band is great to keep it all together. It can also act as a great place marker for you to open up right to the day you are at. There is a pocket in the back which is great for any random love notes, receipts or misc loose papers you need to access. The monthly tabs are indented so you can access the month, or future months, quickly. The paper is an amazing quality, it doesn’t bleed or smear when you write and it’s nice and thick so it won’t rip or tear easily....
My reverse transformation

My reverse transformation

With the launch of my online program, Sensual Movement, I am brought back a flood of memories to when I felt my lowest of lows in the sexy and confident arena. It may be shocking to some and I’ve been wanting to tell this story for some time. In 2014 I had come off of a back-to-back stint of 7 bodybuilding shows. What started out as a bucket list goal became an unhealthy relationship with food, exercise and my thoughts. Like many of the women that I have met over the years, I thought that when I could get myself as lean as possible, I’d love my body and finally be happy with myself. I’m pretty sure I thought “Geeze, aren’t all of these women who walk around with 6-pack abs, jacked and lean living happy wonderful lives and running around naked since they look perfect!??? And, while I know for certain there are some women that happily live with incredibly low levels of body fat, eat tilapia and asparagus for 5 out of 6 meals and count every calorie they burn and ounce of water they drink, that’s just not my experience. While I would never take back my experience in bodybuilding, what I wish I could take back were the years of loathing my body in the process. Each show I wasn’t lean enough. I didn’t look as good as the other women. I was still too heavy. Even at my last show winning 1st place and the overall in the masters division in a group of more than 45 women, I still didn’t love body or...
Fake It Till You Make It

Fake It Till You Make It

“The degree to which you cherish yourself is the precise degree to which you will be cherished. Have a cherishing thought about yourself, right now. -Mama Gena “I look fat” “I’ll never be sexy” “I’m a failure” “I hate myself” Have you ever thought one of these things, or worse, said them out loud to yourself? With the recent launch of my new online program, Sensual Movement, I’m getting questions about how the mindset shift from negative self talk occurs to exuding buckets of confidence.   I can honestly say that there have been times when those phrases above were just a handful of the terrible things I would think to myself. In fact, I know that there are a lot of women who consistently belittle themselves with attacks of self-hatred daily, from the moment they wake up, to the time they lie down to sleep. How do I know? Because that was me. And, because I have had the privilege of being surrounded by a community of women who have allowed me to be a part of their life’s journey, and many of them have shared their personal stories with me. It’s so easy for self-proclaimed guru’s to just echo back to you “just love yourself”. What does that cryptic advice even mean? As if it were that easy. What I get to witness is what makes my life’s work so rewarding. I have had the pleasure of guiding women to love themselves through movement – Sensual Movement, Pole Dancing, yoga, bootcamp and all the shenanigans in between. It doesn’t just happen. You don’t just look in the mirror...
I Know I Felt Invisible, Have You?

I Know I Felt Invisible, Have You?

“Life begins outside your comfort zone”. -Neale Donald Walsch Here’s a little glance into a conversation that I had with a woman in Austin for a business conference. She said, “You must be so proud of everything you have accomplished.” After I thanked her for the compliment I then replied, “Honestly, I haven’t become anything really. I stopped living in fear of taking chances. Over the years it wasn’t what I wanted to experience anymore. I stopped worrying about what everyone else thought of me and in doing that, I allowed myself to be who I really am. I know a huge contributor of that shift has been my evolution through sensual movement” What I forgot to mention to her is that I feel it’s my duty to pass it forward to other women by way of my story. Before I started #sensualmovement I was a people pleaser, a “yes” woman, door mat, shy, quiet and invisible. I just wanted to blend in. I was scared of everything. I had no confidence in myself or in my body. I felt like a nobody. I spent more time looking in the mirror and hating my reflection than I’d care to admit.   Facing my fears, allowing myself to be vulnerable and not giving up led me to finally believe in myself. It gave me strength. It allowed me to get out of my head. It created fearlessness in myself that I hope to share with so many more women People judged me, and they still do I’m sure. But the thing is; now I don’t let that affect me or hold me back. And, you...
Why Are We Really Complaining?

Why Are We Really Complaining?

There are times in life when, instead of complaining, you do something about your complaints. -Rita Dove   I’ve been complaining a lot lately. I hate it. It hasn’t been over anything incredibly earth shattering, but enough to where I’m growing tired of the sound of my own complaining thoughts. One of my more frequent annoyances is dog hair. One of the furry children, Roger, sheds a ton. His long red and white hairs get everywhere. I can’t keep up with the massive hairballs floating across our hardwood floors. It annoys me. Anything he lies on is instantly covered in a blanket of fur. So naturally, I complain about it. But, one particular weekend was different.  As I was vacuuming up the gobs of hair, I said aloud “I am so sick of having to keep up with all of his shedding. Every other day the rugs are covered in hair”. No sooner did the words come out of my mouth, when I realized that I complain about this issue pretty much every day. And again, I’m tired of hearing myself complain about it. So, naturally, I pulled out the clippers and spent over an hour shaving Roger.     Drastic? Maybe. But guess what? There has been a lot less dog hair around my house lately and I’m done complaining. Score!! If there is one thing that I can’t stand it’s complaining. Sure I’m guilty of it, but I try to get down to the bottom of why I’m complaining so that I can solve the issue. This is just a very simplistic example of trivial complaining. However, when there...
My fave protein powders and pre-workout supplements

My fave protein powders and pre-workout supplements

“You know, all that really matters is that the people you love are happy and healthy. Everything else is just sprinkles on the sundae.” -Paul Walker    A few of questions I get asked often are… “How do I get my family to eat healthy?” and “What kind of protein and pre-workout supplements do you recommend?” Let’s start with getting the fam-bam to eat healthy…   This is a question I get often because when my Goddesses start improving their nutrition they find family is often hard to get on board.   I get it, I totally do. My kids lived on fish sticks, corn dogs, Top Ramen and apple juice for years. So naturally, when their mom became a health coach thru the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, they were less than enthused.   It’s no doubt that my main objective in life is to inspire and motivate others to be their best selves, but I was NOT prepared for the struggle when it came to my own family.   It can be rough when the people you love the most aren’t as excited about eating veggies and breaking a sweat? lol   When I first got started on my healthier lifestyle, I wanted my family in on it. But let me tell you, they were not about to eat my sweet potato cupcakes and kale chips. Major fail.   I would try to get my family eating new healthier recipes by swapping out old, unhealthier versions and there was always a complaint. But I didn’t give up.   What I did give up was being a “health pusher”. Pushing or...
How Carmen lost 30+ pounds by making realistic and simple changes

How Carmen lost 30+ pounds by making realistic and simple changes

It took a few years to get Carmen to join our program. She was incredibly hesitant and reluctant because she had tried other programs before and felt overwhelmed, lost and intimidated. When she started with Goddess Body University she was determined to do her very best and never gave up when she had slip ups or bad days. She was diligent about posting her accountability in our private coaching group daily (yes, even when she ate foods that she didn’t feel like posting) and she quickly learned that she was totally normal!! As soon as she adapted an awareness around her nutrition, it all became much easier to eat for fat loss and she realized where she had to work on mindfulness during stressful times (I call them trigger times). I knew that Carmen’s story would inspire so many women to finally take charge of their lives and want to also feel the amazing results that she has. I asked her some questions and let’s find out what she had to say about her journey when she became 30 pounds lighter during her session of Goddess Body University! What’s the biggest shift (food, exercise, or mindset- or all?) that you made from when you started to where you are now that made the biggest impact on your fat loss? The biggest shift in food I have made is to be aware and mindful of what I am eating and how food makes me feel. I now understand that eating healthy is important when losing weight. Food is not the enemy. Food is vital to our strength. The shift with exercise for...
How to eat clean – your simple guide

How to eat clean – your simple guide

If you are trying to lose weight and struggle with the eating part of the equation, I am here to help.  In this video I discuss how oftentimes we get so focused only on the exercise part of fat loss and end up frustrated when things aren’t changing. I can’t stress enough about how important it is to really hone in on your nutrition and this is where the magic will happen. A lot of times when you start a new program you are handed a “diet” or meal plan that is incredibly low in calories and not individualized whatsoever. The reality is that we are not all the same (age, weight, height, activity levels, etc.) so it’s no wonder that these plans are hard to follow and completely unrealistic. I will not tell you to follow some cookie cutter plan. My signature program, Goddess Body University, is a complete transformation program that is designed to have you feeling  I’m going to guide you on adding things to your diet that will take the place of some not so healthy items. This is the part of the “what do I eat?” question I get most often from new clients. The key to making healthy eating a lifestyle is that it has to be: 1- easy 2- time efficient 3- taste good 4- NOT feel like a diet In this video I’ll share with you the main foods that I keep consistently in my life, sometimes in rotation, switched out with some others (couldn’t get everything in this video! lol) but these are some important key movers in the fat loss...
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