Fake It Till You Make It

Fake It Till You Make It

“The degree to which you cherish yourself is the precise degree to which you will be cherished. Have a cherishing thought about yourself, right now. -Mama Gena “I look fat” “I’ll never be sexy” “I’m a failure” “I hate myself” Have you ever thought one of these things, or worse, said them out loud to yourself? With the recent launch of my new online program, Sensual Movement, I’m getting questions about how the mindset shift from negative self talk occurs to exuding buckets of confidence.   I can honestly say that there have been times when those phrases above were just a handful of the terrible things I would think to myself. In fact, I know that there are a lot of women who consistently belittle themselves with attacks of self-hatred daily, from the moment they wake up, to the time they lie down to sleep. How do I know? Because that was me. And, because I have had the privilege of being surrounded by a community of women who have allowed me to be a part of their life’s journey, and many of them have shared their personal stories with me. It’s so easy for self-proclaimed guru’s to just echo back to you “just love yourself”. What does that cryptic advice even mean? As if it were that easy. What I get to witness is what makes my life’s work so rewarding. I have had the pleasure of guiding women to love themselves through movement – Sensual Movement, Pole Dancing, yoga, bootcamp and all the shenanigans in between. It doesn’t just happen. You don’t just look in the mirror...
I Know I Felt Invisible, Have You?

I Know I Felt Invisible, Have You?

“Life begins outside your comfort zone”. -Neale Donald Walsch Here’s a little glance into a conversation that I had with a woman in Austin for a business conference. She said, “You must be so proud of everything you have accomplished.” After I thanked her for the compliment I then replied, “Honestly, I haven’t become anything really. I stopped living in fear of taking chances. Over the years it wasn’t what I wanted to experience anymore. I stopped worrying about what everyone else thought of me and in doing that, I allowed myself to be who I really am. I know a huge contributor of that shift has been my evolution through sensual movement” What I forgot to mention to her is that I feel it’s my duty to pass it forward to other women by way of my story. Before I started #sensualmovement I was a people pleaser, a “yes” woman, door mat, shy, quiet and invisible. I just wanted to blend in. I was scared of everything. I had no confidence in myself or in my body. I felt like a nobody. I spent more time looking in the mirror and hating my reflection than I’d care to admit.   Facing my fears, allowing myself to be vulnerable and not giving up led me to finally believe in myself. It gave me strength. It allowed me to get out of my head. It created fearlessness in myself that I hope to share with so many more women People judged me, and they still do I’m sure. But the thing is; now I don’t let that affect me or hold me back. And, you...
Let your light shine + how to walk sexy (video)

Let your light shine + how to walk sexy (video)

“Do not follow where the path may lead.  Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” -Muriel Strode   The studio always steams up when I host couples lap dance workshops. The women that participated did incredible and really embraced their confident, sexy selves!  It is always sheer bliss watching the magic unfold as each woman taps into her confidence and smiles brighter. The men were such great sports, supportive and very well behaved. ?   Every workshop was met with a fun mixture of participants. Some women very comfortable in the Venus setting, brand new women and some men who had no idea what they were in for. After a champagne toast we were off and running with instructing the women how to dance while their partners sat smitten and oh-so-patient.   After talking with my instructors when we finished our workshops, it brought me back to how I’m always amazed at how sensual dance changes so much for women. Sharing sensual dance with your partner is fun and of course can add increased levels of intimacy. However, when you realize that you are really doing it for yourself, that’s when your confidence shines.   I’ve also witnessed women “shrinking” way too often. They are afraid their confidence will come across as self-absorbed, vain or conceited. It’s actually the opposite. Because of this I STRONGLY encourage each and every woman to “shine bright like a diamond” all of the time.   With that being said, as Marianne Williamson has said in her infamous quote “one of our deepest fears is not that we are not...
How to do Sexy Yoga For Beginners

How to do Sexy Yoga For Beginners

I love doing all things sexy and all things yoga. So naturally, I felt inclined to combine my love of sensual movement with my yoga practice. This video is a perfect introduction into what sensual movement is like blended with some yoga flow. If you are new to yoga and new to sensual dance this video moves at the perfect pace for you. If you are a bit more experienced, you’ll still enjoy the combination of these moves to add to your routine. All you need is a mat and some clothes to move comfortably in. I find it even more exciting when you can add some music and just shut the world out for the duration of your practice. If you can put on some sexy jams you can really let loose and have fun. This video will help you loosen up your neck, shoulders, back and will increase the flexibility in your hamstrings and hips as you go through the yoga poses. You’ll fall in love with this hybrid workout. What you’ll also learn are some of the key exercises that I use in my sensual dance classes and programs that will strengthen your entire body. And they are sexy AF if I do say so myself 🙂 If you love all things sensual dance you’ll probably love my latest FREEBIE download. I created a “Sensual Dance Starter Kit” for you to dive into your sexy side. If you’ve ever been oh-so-curious then you’ll love what this video and cheat sheet will have to offer. I love teaching women how to get in touch with their sexy side. It took me many...
the beauty in surviving a shit sandwich – my divorce musings

the beauty in surviving a shit sandwich – my divorce musings

As we embark on the beginning of a new session of Goddess Body University, it brings me back to last year when I was going through the process of divorce, I was completely out of touch with my body. I’ve seen countless women also come into a crossroads in their life, ready to shed layers of insecurity, finally ready to take their self-care seriously and de-stress. I know this personally all too well. Stress was an understatement in my own personal journey last year. I had put this undue pressure on myself to “keep it together”. I had been “keeping it together” in my marriage for about 13 years for the sake of my children. Tearing apart a family was a guilt I did not want to bear. Until one day I looked in the mirror and realized that I had robbed myself. I was spending my days avoiding the truth, making excuses and busying myself so I wouldn’t have to deal with reality. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I was coaching women to be strong, confident and powerful in their lives when I felt like a phony, fake and crumbling mess. During the thick of it, I found my strength in teaching women to do what I did not have the mental fortitude to do for my own life. What I didn’t realize is that while being a teacher, I was indeed the student. I learned that my timing needed to be just that, mine. No one could tell me what or how I needed to live. I had to come to this realization on my own....
Self care is a divine responsibility, even after a heart transplant

Self care is a divine responsibility, even after a heart transplant

“Self care is a divine responsibility.”-Danielle La Porte Why do so many of us diminish the importance of self care? It’s often thought of as something we should do when we have “time”. Things like nurturing our creativity, taking care of our bodies and exploring our interests are left to the back burner. More often than not self-care is considered indulgent. Who has time for that anyway? Who wants to devote another brain cell to learning something new? What if we stopped watching so much T.V and drowning our hard days work buried in the screen of our cell phone? What if we decided that life was passing us by and we NEEDED to invest in self-care?  Recently, my boyfriend Cory and I did some hiking in Arnold and wine tasting in the beautiful sleepy little town of Murphys. Our hosts at the lovely Airbnb we stayed at were delightful.   Peggy, a 68 year old silver haired woman with a special warmth about her, shared a moving story with me. Two years prior, she became very ill and out of breath. She knew something was terribly wrong. After dealing with these symptoms for months, she was found to have a heart infection. The infection was so far gone, Peggy had to be put on a heart transplant list. Can you imagine? A heart transplant!??? Six months later she received the call and a heart of a 13 year old little girl was available for her to receive. She had 5 hours to rush to Stanford and get under the knife for this very intricate surgery. 32 medications post op, a hairy scary...
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